Here Comes the... Reality

Some people dream about their wedding day their whole lives. Others may not, but one thing that is probably true for most everyone is that their wedding day is something they form a vision around at some point. There’s a pretty picture in our minds of what the perfect wedding would look like whether it comes to us at 5 years old or we don’t see it until we find that perfect person and get engaged. 

The Farm at South Mountain Trees

You finally get there and you’re so excited then you start planning and there’s squeaky breaks screeching you to a halt. Wedding planning is no walk in the park. For anyone that’s been through it that’s a reality you know all too well. Sometimes I’m sure (most likely with an unlimited budget) it goes exactly as planned, but for most people there are bumps in the road.

Venues aren’t working, the date you wanted isn’t available, things are too expensive, it’s getting harder to find the perfect dress in your budget, the bouquet looked weird the first time you saw it, finding the photographer for you seems like an endless search, or maybe adding it all up is just getting a little too stressful to deal with. There’s so much to think about.

The Farm at South Mountain Bar

Well Leo and I are just getting started. I’m not sure about him, but I definitely went in thinking it wouldn’t be that difficult. I felt like it would all just sort of work out right exactly how I had envisioned it. Wrong! When you’re on a budget you can’t just have whatever you want. So when reality hits, sometimes it hits hard. 

For us it was the venue. I had in my mind this perfect place, and just seeing it online I fell in love with it. I wasn’t trying to get so attached without having gotten a quote yet, but it was seemingly perfect. I couldn’t help it. When the quote came it was painful. I knew in that moment that it wasn’t going to happen. I was crushed. I’ve always been the person that is disappointed when something doesn’t work out exactly how I thought it would, so chances are this isn’t the only time I will feel this way during the planning process if I don’t redirect my thoughts.

Flowers in Oak Creek Canyon

So if you’re planning a wedding or you’re about to start there’s one question you need to remember, and what I’ve had to focus on. What is most important to you? Be real with yourself, because it’s so easy to get caught up in all the little details. 

When it comes down to it the tiny details don’t necessarily matter for me. I’m marrying the person I love. We’re inviting the people that are most important in our lives. We will be celebrating together, and there will be the perfect photographer there to capture it all. That’s really all that matters. Your wedding day is about love and celebration, so let’s keep it that way and I would venture to say some of the stress will go away. 

Self Portrait